low self-esteem
Question and Answer
My 16-year-old daughter wasn't asked to the prom and she's crushed. As a dad, what can I do to help build her up?
Avoid trying to apply a quick-fix solution. Give her time to be sad and withdrawn if you sense a resistance to talking about it. When she does feel like opening up, listen. Recommend an alternate activity for the evening. If some of her friends are also free that evening, host a slumber party or a movie night. If everybody else really is at the prom, propose a "dad date" at the location of your daughter's choice. If she chooses to stay home, encourage her to call a friend far away (and not worry about the bill).
In any case, reassure her of your love. Based on what she's been told by the media, she'll think she's missing out on the biggest evening of her life — though prom night is probably one of the most over-hyped experiences of adolescence. Offer a more realistic view of it. Reaffirm her value, reinforce the importance of character and remind her of what she has to offer some lucky young man ... when the time is right!
Background Information
Signs of Bullying
Parent, teachers, coaches, and even friends can benefit from learning what signs to look for that may indicate that your child is having a problem being bullied.
How Low Can They Go?
Sometimes the pit of low self-esteem can seem bottomless. Your kids may need a lifeline now more than ever.
Self-Esteem Programs Get Low Grades
Can a school curriculum adequately fill kids with decent values?
Stage Fright
Understanding what makes kids lose their composure can help them regain it.
To Each His Own
It’s normal for some kids to learn at a slower pace.
Questions and Answers
You have said that children and young people are experiencing an epidemic of self-doubt and feelings of low self-esteem. Why do you think this is true?
Answer
Review Frequently Asked Questions
Stories
The Wounded Spirit
Bullying is not the harmless youthful activity some think it is. It inflicts psychological scars that can last a lifetime.
If you've been through a experience related to this topic, we invite you to share your story with others.Share Your Story
Other Things to Consider
The Perfect Child
A little perfectionism goes a long way. Too much can be a real downer for kids.
Related Topics
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Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families
