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On Your Own
Raising children as a single parent can be an overwhelming challenge to face. And while at times you may feel truly alone, you really aren't. There are 11.9 million single-parent households in the United States; that means that 28 percent of America's children are being raised by one parent. Over the last 20 years, single parenting has even bypassed two-parent households as the most common way in which children are raised. Single parents head 30 percent of all U.S. households while only about 26 percent of households have two parents living together. But while solo parenting is a very common lifestyle in today's society, many of the difficulties it creates for the parent are hard to face alone.
Many single parents and their children assume that a household with one adult can function as though there were two parents. But juggling the responsibilities of providing for the family, maintaining a household and caring for children is often overwhelming for two individuals to handle, much less one. Community, church and volunteer involvements, while important to the success of a single parent household, can make the job seem even harder. Single parents often find that they have less time than ever to spend with their children. In addition, the family's finances are typically drastically reduced by the parents ' break-up, bringing new stresses that didn't exist before.
The fact that most single parents have been through a divorce creates some unique problems as well. Child custody and financial issues can cause further conflict between mother and father. This continuing struggle often disrupts relationships with children. The divorce often interrupts the support system of extended family as well, making the single parent feel even more alone. Helping children struggle through the emotional, behavioral and academic issues that divorce usually brings can exhaust single parents to a whole new level. And as parents begin entering new relationships, they face challenges dealing with their children's reactions and their own mixed feelings about starting over again.
Background Information
Journey of No Return
Sometimes as parents, we have a knee-jerk response to our kids as we're barraged by their numerous inquires and desires. Maybe it's time to stop being so negative.
When Not To Discipline
Parents should recognize when they should and shouldn't discipline their children.
When You Feel Like Calling in the SWAT Team
Are your children constantly testing you? This classic parenting advice will help you regain the upper hand.
Questions and Answers
After I spank my child, she usually wants to hug me and make up, but I continue to be cool to her for a few hours. Do you think that is right?
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We'd like to be more unified in our approach, but how do we successfully move from two financial approaches to one?
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How long do you think a child should be allowed to cry after being punished? Is there a limit?
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I have never spanked my 3-year-old because I am afraid it will teach her to hit others and be a violent person. Do you think I am wrong?
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It just seems barbaric to cause pain to a defenseless child. Is it healthy to spank him or her?
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Stories
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Other Things to Consider
Ten Things Toddlers Wish They Could Tell You
It can do wonders for the frazzled parent to know what's going on in the mind of your little one.
Related Topics
Transitions: Having a Baby, Preparing for Adolescence
Life Pressures: Working Moms, Stay-At-Home Moms, Time for Family
Relationships: Parents and Adult Children, Blended Families
