Blended Families

Even Cinderella in her fairy tale world faced problems with her stepfamily. Blending a family can bring great conflict, and while no fairy godmother can provide instant solutions, parents can develop strategies for building unity in their blended family. Each member of the family has a role to play. Custodial parents should carefully assess the feelings of their children and encourage open communication. Meanwhile, potential stepparents should not have an agenda to €œwin over € a child; the best way they can show love is by treating the biological parent with affection and respect. Together, parents of blended families should establish equitable boundaries for all members of the household and develop traditions to help the two families become a single unit.

Background Information

Portraits of a Stepfamily
A look at different types of stepfamilies can highlight the unique challenges each stepfamily may encounter.

Remarriage--A Step in the Right Direction?
In order to make a step in the right direction for you and your children, you first must understand the challenges of stepfamily living and then make an informed choice about remarriage.

Questions and Answers

What's the biggest hurdle blended families face?

As a new stepparent, what can I do to make the transition a smooth one?

There are many reasons why a teen may react strongly to a new parent. Some may require professional intervention, but others can be handled at home.

Is remarrying worth it when it involves blending families?

Television portrays blended families as a peaceful solution to divorce. Is this accurate?


Not the "Normal" Blended Family
Most families become blended through divorce, death and remarriage. Our blend is much different.

Loving the Stepmomster
It wasn't easy, but I did grow to accept the woman my dad remarried.

If you've been through an experience related to this topic, we invite you to share your story with others.
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Other Things to Consider

Out of Bounds
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Learning to Roll With Change
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Where is God in the Midst of All My Troubles?
So many cry out to Him in times of need, but is God really listening? And, more important, does He care?

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TransitionsGetting Married

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